8 Habits of Highly Effective People

One of my lecturer introduced this book and I have felt kind of curious to know more about this. I haven’t actually buy the book yet (it is quite expensive & thick) but I have done some research about the 8 Habits.

Habit 1: Be Proactive

Proactive means we are able to take initiative in life by realizing that your decisions. People with a proactive mind take responsibility of their own lives and seek ways to shape their own destiny, without blaming other people or external circumstances for their misfortunes. Rather than brooding over shortcomings or difficult challenges, they assess the situation and seek positive means to overcome challenges. Such people make good leaders.

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

Self-discover and clarify your deeply important character values and life goals. Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your various roles and relationships in life.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

Plan, prioritize, and execute your week’s tasks based on importance rather than urgency. Evaluating if your efforts exemplify your desired character values, propel you towards goals, and enrich the roles and relationships that were elaborated in Habit 2.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win

Genuinely strive for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships. Valuing and respecting people by understanding a “win” for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

Use empathetic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, respect, and positive problem solving.

Habit 6: Synergize

Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone. Get the best performance out of a group of people through encouraging meaningful contribution, and modeling inspirational and supportive leadership.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable, long-term, effective lifestyle.

Habit 8 : Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs

A to Z of Friendship

Here is something I found on Friendship,

A Good Friend – 
Accepts you as you are


Believes in “you”

Calls you just to say “HI”

Doesn’t give up on you

Envisions the whole of you

Forgives your mistakes

Gives unconditionally

Helps you

Invites you over

Just “be” with you

Keeps you close at heart

Loves you for who you are

Makes a difference in your life

Never Judges

Offers support

Picks you up

Quiets your fears


Raises your spirits

Says nice things about you


Tells you the truth when you need hear it

Understands you

Values you

Walks beside you

Xplain things you don’t understand


Yells when you won’t listen and


Zaps you back to real

Motivation Bite’s

Every one of us need a friendly motivation from time to time. Here are a few of my favorite quotes:

“Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.” ~Proverb

The way we think depends on the way we thank

Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections

Humans are most happy when they focus on the present

Everyday may not be good but there’s something good everyday

Nothing is all for nothing. There’s always a reason and lesson behind everything that happens. Keep in mind that good things always come to those who are willing to wait.

Complaining brings no benefit but to make yourself feel even worse. Stop complaining now and see how your day gets nicer.

Have respect to yourself and don’t wait for others to love you but start to love yourself first. You are a unique and valuable individual who sets your own self-worth.

Care less abou what others are thinking. You can’t please everyone but you certainly can please yourself.

Don’t wish to be everybody bestfriend but be friendly towards everybody.

3c rules : You need to make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change

Find happiness in your job. Whatever it is you always can

Forget about everything that could go wrong and focus on the good things that you enjoy an make you happy.

Law of Attraction

Law of attraction brings to you what you most strongly focus upon, whether wanted or unwanted. It lines us all up with the people, things, and circumstances that match our vibration. Say you were consciously creating a relationship of happiness and love, and then Law of Attraction will bring you in line with those things that match your vibration.

You can overcome illness but you cannot predict the medicine

You can bring riches but you cannot predict the source of money

You can live in happiness but you cannot predict the reason for harmony

You can be loved but you cannot predict the lover

LAW OF ATTRACTION STEPS

  1. Perfect day : take a paper and write out your ideal day. Design your day any way you wanted from the time you get up until you go to bed. How would it be? What would you do? Where would you lived? Who would you be with? The more detailed you are the more effective this exercise will be. Once you have this –perfect day- written out, read it every morning just after waking up and every night just before falling asleep.
  2. Power visualization : find some quiet time for about 20min. Close your eyes and intensely visualize all of those things you want in life. Don’t just think, feel them. Imagine the positive changes, positive events and positive people that you want in your life. The more real these visions seem, the greater the chances are of attracting them into your reality.
  3. Repetitive writing. Write out one thing that you want to attract, could be a material thing, a person, or situation. Be specific as you can but try to condensed it into one sentence across the top page. Re-write that phrase all the way down the page. Each time you write it out, you are calling the Law of Attraction into play. The more you write it, the greater the effectiveness of this exercise.

COMMON MISTAKES

1. Lack of trust. You never really vibrating in a place of trust what you desire is yours but more “testing the theory”. When the result wasn’t deliver on your schedule, you become impatient.

2. Determining ahead of time, how and when you will attract what you want. When you attach yourself to one particular outcome, you are cutting off an infinite number of other ways your desire can be attracted.

3. Give up to frustration which then attracts more of what will frustrate them.

4. Focus and think about what you don’t want instead of concentrating about the experiences that you do want.

Very Inspirational Song

Reba McEntire – I’m a Survivor

I was born 3 months too early
The doctor gave me 30 days
But I must have had my mama’s will
And God’s amazing grace
I guess I’ll keep on livin
Even if this love’s to die for
Cause your bags are packed
And I ain’t cryin
You walking out and I’m not trying
To change your mind
Cause I was born to be

The baby girl without a chance
A victim of circumstance
The one who oughta give up
But she’s just too hard headed
A single mom
Who works 2 jobs
Who loves her kids and never stops
With gentle hands
And the heart of a fighter
I’m a survivor

I don’t believe in self pity
It only brings you down
May be the queen of broken hearts
But I don’t hide behind the crown
When the deck is stacked against me
I just play a different game
My roots are planted in the past
And though my life is changing fast
Who I am is who I wanna be

The baby girl without a chance
A victim of circumstance
The one who oughta give up
But she’s just too hard headed
A single mom
Who works 2 jobs
Who loves her kids and never stops
With gentle hands
And the heart of a fighter
I’m a survivor

Oh a single mom
Who works 2 jobs
Who loves her kids and never stops
With gentle hands
And the heart of a fighter
I’m a survivor

But I must have had my mama’s will
And God’s amazing grace