What is Fear of Intimacy?

Love don’t create pain. Instead ATTACHMENT. EXPECTATION AND NEEDING the other are what cause us our pain

Definition

Intimacy is similar to authenticity. Both involve revealing your true-self to another person. Simple to say, fear of intimacy is your body’s natural defense system that wants to protect you from feeling betrayed, abandoned, or rejected. Those who have fear of intimacy usually have fear of allowing others become too familiar and lose interest with them. One thing to note, we lose interest in people  when they don’t pose a challenge anymore and when they can be taken for granted. Games can be boring. In games, we only want to verify our power, interest, attractiveness or self-worth.

Habits

  1. 1.      Hiding behind emotional wall
  2. 2.      Consider it over and over again before it even have the chance to start
  3. 3.      Withdrawing silently from a relationship

 

Steps to Overcome

  1. Allow yourself to feel vulnerable sometimes to talk with your special someone about what’s going on in your life and how you really feel about it.
  2. Share your discomfort and worries sometimes could make negative feelings dissipate and your fear of intimacy gradually disappear.
  3. Be Trusting. Everyone has their own special relationship with trust and usually if they have been burnt once by a former partner, then they may not share this as easily with the new one.
  4. Discover your inner strength and understand that while partners can come and go. Self-love and self-respect are two qualities that should never fade away.
  5. Developing a powerful loving adult part of yourself that don’t take rejection personally.
  6. Take personal responsibility for defining your own worth instead of making other’s love and approval take charge and be responsible for your feelings of worth.
  7. We can always love but we cannot always be loved.
  8. Sometimes we might or might not receive responses the way we hoped. It doesn’t make us less worthy cause self worth is not based on how others respond to us.

Motivation Bite’s

Every one of us need a friendly motivation from time to time. Here are a few of my favorite quotes:

“Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.” ~Proverb

The way we think depends on the way we thank

Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections

Humans are most happy when they focus on the present

Everyday may not be good but there’s something good everyday

Nothing is all for nothing. There’s always a reason and lesson behind everything that happens. Keep in mind that good things always come to those who are willing to wait.

Complaining brings no benefit but to make yourself feel even worse. Stop complaining now and see how your day gets nicer.

Have respect to yourself and don’t wait for others to love you but start to love yourself first. You are a unique and valuable individual who sets your own self-worth.

Care less abou what others are thinking. You can’t please everyone but you certainly can please yourself.

Don’t wish to be everybody bestfriend but be friendly towards everybody.

3c rules : You need to make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change

Find happiness in your job. Whatever it is you always can

Forget about everything that could go wrong and focus on the good things that you enjoy an make you happy.

Blood Type Personality

TYPE A – The Thinker

Strength: Tend to be cooperative, sensitive to the needs of others, clever, passionate and smart. You make a good listener, detail oriented, analytical, creative and inventive. You’re calm, perfectionist, and capable of leadership positions. Usually introverted, you’re stable and thoughtful. You are sensitive to color and your surroundings. You like to be fashionable and are up on the latest trends, but never flashy or gaudy. You like romantic settings and often shun reality for fantasy worlds. A is most compatible with A and AB in the love department.

Weakness: sensitive to the needs of others, often bottling up anxiety in order to get along with others, they may hold in their emotions until they explode. Many are tense, impatient and unable to sleep well. You tend to worry too much and often are shy and sensitive.

Many Type A people have more sensitive constitutions. Too much stress weakens their immunity more quickly than other blood types. Low stomach acid is common among blood type A’s even from birth, so special care should be taken when eating animal proteins.

TYPE B – The Doer

Strength: subjective, easygoing, creative, original and flexible. Blood type B individuals tend to be balanced: thoughtful like A’s and yet ambitious like O’s. They are empathetic, easily understanding others’ points of view, yet often hesitating to challenge or confront. Chameleon-like and flexible, they make good friends. Have preference or sixth sense information and tend to be insightful, mystical, idealistic, creative, globally oriented, people-oriented and good at imagining. Type B’s learned best through listening, then reflecting on and interpreting what they had observed. Type B’s can be very goal-oriented and often complete the ambitious tasks set before them. Outgoing and very charming, you’re good at reading people and providing support. You are an impulsive, strong and optimistic. B is most compatible with B and AB lovers.

Weakness: While their immunity is strong, they are more prone to slow-growing viral infections like lupus, MS and chronic fatigue. They may also have problems with hypoglycemia and blood sugar, especially if they eat the wrong foods.

TYPE O – The Popular

Type O’s most often described themselves in ways related to the following characteristics; responsible, decisive, organized, objective, rule-conscious, and practical. Both male and female Type O’s reported a higher percentage of the mesomorphic body type when compared to controls. Interestingly, Type O’s also scored significantly higher than the rest in “sensing” – using the 5 senses to gather information, and in the sensing-thinking combination, indicating that they are more detail and fact oriented, logical, precise and orderly.

Type O’s are the social butterflies. Often popular and self-confident, you are very creative and always seem to be the center of attention. You make a good impression on people and you’re often quite attractive. Organized and determined, your stubbornness will help you reach your goals. You make good leaders. Lovewise, O is most compatible with O and AB. Common career choices: banker, politician, gambler, minister, investment broker, and pro athlete. Blood Type O – Tend to be loners or leaders and are intuitive, focused, self-reliant and daring. They handle stress better than other blood types and have strong immune systems, a well developed physique and a physically active nature.

TYPE AB – The Balance

Type AB often receives mixed messages about emotional health. While you tend to be drawn to other people and are friendly and trusting, there is a side of you that feels alienated from the larger community. At your best, you are intuitive and spiritual, with an ability to look beyond the rigid confines of society. You are passionate in your beliefs, but you also want to be liked by others and this can create conflicts. In an independent study, Type ABs described themselves as emotional, passionate, friendly, trusting and empathetic. Type ABs are considered some of the most interesting of the blood types, both John F. Kennedy and Marilyn Monroe were Type ABs and although both are long gone, they hold a place in our national psyche to this day. Not surprisingly, ABs can be quite dualistic, possessing both A and B traits. You may be shy and outgoing, and hesitant and confident. You often stand out from others, don’t like labels, and are nice and easy going. You are logical and determined to do things correctly. Usually trustworthy, you like to help others. You often speak in a serious manner. Your patience, concentration, and intelligence are admirable. AB can find a soul mate with any other blood type. Common career choices: bartender, lawyer, teacher, sales representative, and social worker.