8 Habits of Highly Effective People

One of my lecturer introduced this book and I have felt kind of curious to know more about this. I haven’t actually buy the book yet (it is quite expensive & thick) but I have done some research about the 8 Habits.

Habit 1: Be Proactive

Proactive means we are able to take initiative in life by realizing that your decisions. People with a proactive mind take responsibility of their own lives and seek ways to shape their own destiny, without blaming other people or external circumstances for their misfortunes. Rather than brooding over shortcomings or difficult challenges, they assess the situation and seek positive means to overcome challenges. Such people make good leaders.

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

Self-discover and clarify your deeply important character values and life goals. Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your various roles and relationships in life.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

Plan, prioritize, and execute your week’s tasks based on importance rather than urgency. Evaluating if your efforts exemplify your desired character values, propel you towards goals, and enrich the roles and relationships that were elaborated in Habit 2.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win

Genuinely strive for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships. Valuing and respecting people by understanding a “win” for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

Use empathetic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, respect, and positive problem solving.

Habit 6: Synergize

Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone. Get the best performance out of a group of people through encouraging meaningful contribution, and modeling inspirational and supportive leadership.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable, long-term, effective lifestyle.

Habit 8 : Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs

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A to Z of Friendship

Here is something I found on Friendship,

A Good Friend – 
Accepts you as you are


Believes in “you”

Calls you just to say “HI”

Doesn’t give up on you

Envisions the whole of you

Forgives your mistakes

Gives unconditionally

Helps you

Invites you over

Just “be” with you

Keeps you close at heart

Loves you for who you are

Makes a difference in your life

Never Judges

Offers support

Picks you up

Quiets your fears


Raises your spirits

Says nice things about you


Tells you the truth when you need hear it

Understands you

Values you

Walks beside you

Xplain things you don’t understand


Yells when you won’t listen and


Zaps you back to real

Motivation Bite’s

Every one of us need a friendly motivation from time to time. Here are a few of my favorite quotes:

“Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.” ~Proverb

The way we think depends on the way we thank

Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections

Humans are most happy when they focus on the present

Everyday may not be good but there’s something good everyday

Nothing is all for nothing. There’s always a reason and lesson behind everything that happens. Keep in mind that good things always come to those who are willing to wait.

Complaining brings no benefit but to make yourself feel even worse. Stop complaining now and see how your day gets nicer.

Have respect to yourself and don’t wait for others to love you but start to love yourself first. You are a unique and valuable individual who sets your own self-worth.

Care less abou what others are thinking. You can’t please everyone but you certainly can please yourself.

Don’t wish to be everybody bestfriend but be friendly towards everybody.

3c rules : You need to make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change

Find happiness in your job. Whatever it is you always can

Forget about everything that could go wrong and focus on the good things that you enjoy an make you happy.

Law of Attraction

Law of attraction brings to you what you most strongly focus upon, whether wanted or unwanted. It lines us all up with the people, things, and circumstances that match our vibration. Say you were consciously creating a relationship of happiness and love, and then Law of Attraction will bring you in line with those things that match your vibration.

You can overcome illness but you cannot predict the medicine

You can bring riches but you cannot predict the source of money

You can live in happiness but you cannot predict the reason for harmony

You can be loved but you cannot predict the lover

LAW OF ATTRACTION STEPS

  1. Perfect day : take a paper and write out your ideal day. Design your day any way you wanted from the time you get up until you go to bed. How would it be? What would you do? Where would you lived? Who would you be with? The more detailed you are the more effective this exercise will be. Once you have this –perfect day- written out, read it every morning just after waking up and every night just before falling asleep.
  2. Power visualization : find some quiet time for about 20min. Close your eyes and intensely visualize all of those things you want in life. Don’t just think, feel them. Imagine the positive changes, positive events and positive people that you want in your life. The more real these visions seem, the greater the chances are of attracting them into your reality.
  3. Repetitive writing. Write out one thing that you want to attract, could be a material thing, a person, or situation. Be specific as you can but try to condensed it into one sentence across the top page. Re-write that phrase all the way down the page. Each time you write it out, you are calling the Law of Attraction into play. The more you write it, the greater the effectiveness of this exercise.

COMMON MISTAKES

1. Lack of trust. You never really vibrating in a place of trust what you desire is yours but more “testing the theory”. When the result wasn’t deliver on your schedule, you become impatient.

2. Determining ahead of time, how and when you will attract what you want. When you attach yourself to one particular outcome, you are cutting off an infinite number of other ways your desire can be attracted.

3. Give up to frustration which then attracts more of what will frustrate them.

4. Focus and think about what you don’t want instead of concentrating about the experiences that you do want.

Very Inspirational Song

Reba McEntire – I’m a Survivor

I was born 3 months too early
The doctor gave me 30 days
But I must have had my mama’s will
And God’s amazing grace
I guess I’ll keep on livin
Even if this love’s to die for
Cause your bags are packed
And I ain’t cryin
You walking out and I’m not trying
To change your mind
Cause I was born to be

The baby girl without a chance
A victim of circumstance
The one who oughta give up
But she’s just too hard headed
A single mom
Who works 2 jobs
Who loves her kids and never stops
With gentle hands
And the heart of a fighter
I’m a survivor

I don’t believe in self pity
It only brings you down
May be the queen of broken hearts
But I don’t hide behind the crown
When the deck is stacked against me
I just play a different game
My roots are planted in the past
And though my life is changing fast
Who I am is who I wanna be

The baby girl without a chance
A victim of circumstance
The one who oughta give up
But she’s just too hard headed
A single mom
Who works 2 jobs
Who loves her kids and never stops
With gentle hands
And the heart of a fighter
I’m a survivor

Oh a single mom
Who works 2 jobs
Who loves her kids and never stops
With gentle hands
And the heart of a fighter
I’m a survivor

But I must have had my mama’s will
And God’s amazing grace

Blood Type Personality

TYPE A – The Thinker

Strength: Tend to be cooperative, sensitive to the needs of others, clever, passionate and smart. You make a good listener, detail oriented, analytical, creative and inventive. You’re calm, perfectionist, and capable of leadership positions. Usually introverted, you’re stable and thoughtful. You are sensitive to color and your surroundings. You like to be fashionable and are up on the latest trends, but never flashy or gaudy. You like romantic settings and often shun reality for fantasy worlds. A is most compatible with A and AB in the love department.

Weakness: sensitive to the needs of others, often bottling up anxiety in order to get along with others, they may hold in their emotions until they explode. Many are tense, impatient and unable to sleep well. You tend to worry too much and often are shy and sensitive.

Many Type A people have more sensitive constitutions. Too much stress weakens their immunity more quickly than other blood types. Low stomach acid is common among blood type A’s even from birth, so special care should be taken when eating animal proteins.

TYPE B – The Doer

Strength: subjective, easygoing, creative, original and flexible. Blood type B individuals tend to be balanced: thoughtful like A’s and yet ambitious like O’s. They are empathetic, easily understanding others’ points of view, yet often hesitating to challenge or confront. Chameleon-like and flexible, they make good friends. Have preference or sixth sense information and tend to be insightful, mystical, idealistic, creative, globally oriented, people-oriented and good at imagining. Type B’s learned best through listening, then reflecting on and interpreting what they had observed. Type B’s can be very goal-oriented and often complete the ambitious tasks set before them. Outgoing and very charming, you’re good at reading people and providing support. You are an impulsive, strong and optimistic. B is most compatible with B and AB lovers.

Weakness: While their immunity is strong, they are more prone to slow-growing viral infections like lupus, MS and chronic fatigue. They may also have problems with hypoglycemia and blood sugar, especially if they eat the wrong foods.

TYPE O – The Popular

Type O’s most often described themselves in ways related to the following characteristics; responsible, decisive, organized, objective, rule-conscious, and practical. Both male and female Type O’s reported a higher percentage of the mesomorphic body type when compared to controls. Interestingly, Type O’s also scored significantly higher than the rest in “sensing” – using the 5 senses to gather information, and in the sensing-thinking combination, indicating that they are more detail and fact oriented, logical, precise and orderly.

Type O’s are the social butterflies. Often popular and self-confident, you are very creative and always seem to be the center of attention. You make a good impression on people and you’re often quite attractive. Organized and determined, your stubbornness will help you reach your goals. You make good leaders. Lovewise, O is most compatible with O and AB. Common career choices: banker, politician, gambler, minister, investment broker, and pro athlete. Blood Type O – Tend to be loners or leaders and are intuitive, focused, self-reliant and daring. They handle stress better than other blood types and have strong immune systems, a well developed physique and a physically active nature.

TYPE AB – The Balance

Type AB often receives mixed messages about emotional health. While you tend to be drawn to other people and are friendly and trusting, there is a side of you that feels alienated from the larger community. At your best, you are intuitive and spiritual, with an ability to look beyond the rigid confines of society. You are passionate in your beliefs, but you also want to be liked by others and this can create conflicts. In an independent study, Type ABs described themselves as emotional, passionate, friendly, trusting and empathetic. Type ABs are considered some of the most interesting of the blood types, both John F. Kennedy and Marilyn Monroe were Type ABs and although both are long gone, they hold a place in our national psyche to this day. Not surprisingly, ABs can be quite dualistic, possessing both A and B traits. You may be shy and outgoing, and hesitant and confident. You often stand out from others, don’t like labels, and are nice and easy going. You are logical and determined to do things correctly. Usually trustworthy, you like to help others. You often speak in a serious manner. Your patience, concentration, and intelligence are admirable. AB can find a soul mate with any other blood type. Common career choices: bartender, lawyer, teacher, sales representative, and social worker.

My neighbor grass is not GREENER than mine

Jealousy, it is a normal feeling that could come to anyone. Regardless of your age, nation, gender and life condition, there were this moment when someone who was better than you come along and suddenly your perfectly happy life turns upside down. I myself have experience this feeling quite often in the past, be it with my family, friends and even a stranger. After realizing how it turns me into a negative person, I commit to free myself from it and to always be grateful for what I have today. Here are some steps that really works for me:

1. Stop comparing yourself to others. By doing this, you will do your self-worth a huge favor cause the thing is there’s always gonna be someone who is better than you or have more than you. Since you can’t actually control what that other people could do or have so the only thing you’ll get from comparing is disappointment and ingratitude. The only acceptable way to compare is to compare your “today-self” with your “yesterday-self”. Raise your sense of self-worth and self-confidence by acknowledging your accomplishments, inner qualities and other good things about yourself.

2. Think about what your jealousy is telling you. What you think and feel about the world can often tell you quite a bit about yourself. Jealousy is usually product of insecurity and low self-esteem. Sometimes it’s a deep-rooted fear that someone will leave you or withdraw their love and attention from you because you’re not good enough. If so, you need to learn that other people behaviors and lives are not a reflection on you. I like to repeat this thought in my head when I feel like a jealousy is going to come up: Your happiness isn’t anybody responsibility.

3. Develop an abundance mentality. An abundance mentality tells you that there are always new chances and opportunities in the future. Usually you feel jealous because someone else has gotten one of those scarce things or opportunities that you wanted (it could simply be a boy, a job, an award, etc)

4. Trust. If you get jealous easily, you’ve probably get your trust broken in the past. This is very true for my case, I have experienced several trust broken during my teenage stage and it actually turns me from a non-jealous person into an insecure and easily jealous friend.

5. Work on you self-esteem. If you have more confidence in yourself, you will be less likely to allow jealousy to have power over you. It’s easier to become jealous of people around you if you aren’t happy with yourself. Accept and work on your flaws. Love and enhance your good points. Don’t automatically think that you’re ugly and unlucky when something bad happen but train your mind to think positive thoughts about yourself and your life.