A to Z Diet Motivation

A can do attitude can help you anticipate slip-ups

Breakfast is the most important meals of the day

Calories do count, better get use to reading food labels

Diets don’t work, instead choose a nutritionally balance plan

Eat regularly, don’t go 4-5 hours without food

Fibers are natures weight loss aid

Gums can satisfy sweet tooth & reduce cravings

Heart all healthy foods

Invest in a pedometer to count your 10,000 steps a day

Just do it! Any exercise is better than none

Keep healthy snack in the house

Low blood sugar often cause sweet cravings between meals

Mindful eating, take time to savor every bite

Night time snacking can undermine your success. Brush your teeth at certain time

One more please – controlling portion is fundamental

Protein is the secret to feeling full

Quit old habits that caused you gained that extra weight

Rely on others for motivational support

Supplement your day with multivitamin

Track everything down

Use olive oil for cooking substitutes

Volumetric is the art of eating food high in volume

Water is your body favorite fluid

eXcuses should be stop, list all the reasons why you should instead

Yogurt is an excellent choice for snack

Zip in your step

What is Fear of Intimacy?

Love don’t create pain. Instead ATTACHMENT. EXPECTATION AND NEEDING the other are what cause us our pain

Definition

Intimacy is similar to authenticity. Both involve revealing your true-self to another person. Simple to say, fear of intimacy is your body’s natural defense system that wants to protect you from feeling betrayed, abandoned, or rejected. Those who have fear of intimacy usually have fear of allowing others become too familiar and lose interest with them. One thing to note, we lose interest in people  when they don’t pose a challenge anymore and when they can be taken for granted. Games can be boring. In games, we only want to verify our power, interest, attractiveness or self-worth.

Habits

  1. 1.      Hiding behind emotional wall
  2. 2.      Consider it over and over again before it even have the chance to start
  3. 3.      Withdrawing silently from a relationship

 

Steps to Overcome

  1. Allow yourself to feel vulnerable sometimes to talk with your special someone about what’s going on in your life and how you really feel about it.
  2. Share your discomfort and worries sometimes could make negative feelings dissipate and your fear of intimacy gradually disappear.
  3. Be Trusting. Everyone has their own special relationship with trust and usually if they have been burnt once by a former partner, then they may not share this as easily with the new one.
  4. Discover your inner strength and understand that while partners can come and go. Self-love and self-respect are two qualities that should never fade away.
  5. Developing a powerful loving adult part of yourself that don’t take rejection personally.
  6. Take personal responsibility for defining your own worth instead of making other’s love and approval take charge and be responsible for your feelings of worth.
  7. We can always love but we cannot always be loved.
  8. Sometimes we might or might not receive responses the way we hoped. It doesn’t make us less worthy cause self worth is not based on how others respond to us.

8 Habits of Highly Effective People

One of my lecturer introduced this book and I have felt kind of curious to know more about this. I haven’t actually buy the book yet (it is quite expensive & thick) but I have done some research about the 8 Habits.

Habit 1: Be Proactive

Proactive means we are able to take initiative in life by realizing that your decisions. People with a proactive mind take responsibility of their own lives and seek ways to shape their own destiny, without blaming other people or external circumstances for their misfortunes. Rather than brooding over shortcomings or difficult challenges, they assess the situation and seek positive means to overcome challenges. Such people make good leaders.

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

Self-discover and clarify your deeply important character values and life goals. Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your various roles and relationships in life.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

Plan, prioritize, and execute your week’s tasks based on importance rather than urgency. Evaluating if your efforts exemplify your desired character values, propel you towards goals, and enrich the roles and relationships that were elaborated in Habit 2.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win

Genuinely strive for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships. Valuing and respecting people by understanding a “win” for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

Use empathetic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, respect, and positive problem solving.

Habit 6: Synergize

Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone. Get the best performance out of a group of people through encouraging meaningful contribution, and modeling inspirational and supportive leadership.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable, long-term, effective lifestyle.

Habit 8 : Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs

A to Z of Friendship

Here is something I found on Friendship,

A Good Friend – 
Accepts you as you are


Believes in “you”

Calls you just to say “HI”

Doesn’t give up on you

Envisions the whole of you

Forgives your mistakes

Gives unconditionally

Helps you

Invites you over

Just “be” with you

Keeps you close at heart

Loves you for who you are

Makes a difference in your life

Never Judges

Offers support

Picks you up

Quiets your fears


Raises your spirits

Says nice things about you


Tells you the truth when you need hear it

Understands you

Values you

Walks beside you

Xplain things you don’t understand


Yells when you won’t listen and


Zaps you back to real

Motivation Bite’s

Every one of us need a friendly motivation from time to time. Here are a few of my favorite quotes:

“Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.” ~Proverb

The way we think depends on the way we thank

Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections

Humans are most happy when they focus on the present

Everyday may not be good but there’s something good everyday

Nothing is all for nothing. There’s always a reason and lesson behind everything that happens. Keep in mind that good things always come to those who are willing to wait.

Complaining brings no benefit but to make yourself feel even worse. Stop complaining now and see how your day gets nicer.

Have respect to yourself and don’t wait for others to love you but start to love yourself first. You are a unique and valuable individual who sets your own self-worth.

Care less abou what others are thinking. You can’t please everyone but you certainly can please yourself.

Don’t wish to be everybody bestfriend but be friendly towards everybody.

3c rules : You need to make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change

Find happiness in your job. Whatever it is you always can

Forget about everything that could go wrong and focus on the good things that you enjoy an make you happy.

The 10,000 Hour Rule

World-Class Expertise takes about 10,000 Hours of Practice

 “It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s that I stay with problems longer.” – Albert Einstein

The 10,000 hour rule says that in order for an individual to master any complex skill, be it brain surgery or playing the cello, he/she must put in 10,000 hours of focused practice. Malcolm Gladwell was the man who was responsible for popularizing this rule through his book “Outliers”.

Most of us really believe that talented people are those who was naturally “gifted”. While, you and I can’t become chess grandmasters, or NBA superstars, or concert pianists, simply because we don’t have the necessary anatomy. Endless hours of hard work won’t compensate for our biological limitations. It seems like when fate was handing out skill, we got screwed.

“What a talent!” – A common thought that usually occurs when you see somebody performs in an exceptional way, be it athletes, scientists, writers, artists, doctors, musicians or chess players. But if you refer to their expertise as talent, you lose sight of the hard work it took that person to reach such a high level of achievement. You might mistakenly believe an innate ability was behind their success. But know this, those international experts have already dedicated 10,000 hour of honing their skills to accomplish that international stardom. Since a thousand hours seems to be more or less the maximum we humans can handle in one year, ten thousand hours equals ten years. It make sense, seeing that a lot international stars start their practice from the very early stage of their life.

One lesson that could be extracted from this rule is that, the so-called “ability” was simply one factor in success. In fact, “innate ability” actually played the smaller role and “practice” played the larger role in developing a world-class expertise. In other words, experts are made, not born.

But however, off course not just any kind of practice will work. All experts practiced in a particular way, which is a deliberate practice. Deliberate practice involves two kinds of learning: improving the skills you already have and extending the reach and range of your skills. It requires a mindset that remains unperturbed by the continuous failures inherent in practicing skills outside your current reach.

The 10,000 hour rule virtually apply anywhere.

Victoria Pendleton, a women’s sprint cycling in Beijing, get her gold medal after a humiliating defeat in Athens four years ago. After her loss, she trained herself four hours a day, six days a week and the 27 year old finally reaped the rewards.

Michael Jordan didn’t make his high school varsity basketball team and had to be satisfied with another year of JV.  This spurred him to work harder.

Tiger Woods, When Tiger was an infant, his dad, Earl, moved his high chair into the garage. This was where Earl practiced his golf swing, hitting balls into a soccer net after work. Tiger was captivated by the swift movement. For hours on end, he would watch his father smack hundreds of balls. When Tiger was nine months old, Earl sawed off the top of an old golf club. Tiger could barely walk – and he had yet to utter a single word – but he quickly began teeing off on the Astroturf next to his father. When Tiger was 18 months old, Earl started taking him to the driving range. By the age of three, Tiger was playing nine hole courses, and shooting a 48. That same year, he began identifying the swing flaws of players on the PGA tour. (“Look Daddy,” Tiger would say, “that man has a reverse pivot!”) He finally beat his father – by a single stroke, with a score of 71 – when he was eleven. At fifteen, he became the youngest player to ever win the United States Junior Amateur championship. At eighteen, he became the youngest player to ever win the United States Amateur championship, a title he kept for the next three years. In 1997, when he was only 21, Tiger won the Masters at Augusta by the largest margin in a major championship in the 20th century. Two months later he became the number one golfer in the world.

The lesson of Tiger Woods is that the best way to become a superstar is to start young and get in those 10,000 hours as quickly as possible. That’s why Earl put a club in the hands of a toddler, and why Mozart was composing music before most of us can do arithmetic.

It’s important to remember that the most important skills we develop at an early age are not domain specific. (In other words, Tiger Woods is not using the same golf swing he relied on as a 5 year old.) Instead, the real importance of early childhood has to do with the development of general cognitive and non-cognitive traits, such as self-control, patience, grit, and the willingness to practice.

Good news?Bad news?

The 10,000-Hour Rule brings both good news and bad news.  First, the bad news.  The misconception of talent says great performers are born that way. So, if something is hard to do, you might think you lack talent, which lets you off the hook to push through the difficulty.  But, the research is clear.  No one reaches the highest levels of achievement without putting in ten thousand hours of practice over about ten years.  No expert says getting there was easy

The good news is that you actually have more control over what you might accomplish than if you believe the myth of talent.  Understanding that high achievement is more about effort and less about giftedness can boost motivation and persistence when getting to the next level is difficult.  You don’t have control over innate abilities, but you do have a say about effort.

The 10,000 hour rule teaches us that through hard work, deliberate practice, and discipline we will in return get the skill, patience, professionalism, and a way to speak in our own voice. To speak in one’s own voice means to let go of all the other voices in our heads. Whose voices? The voices of what is expected of us, be it our parents, teachers, mentors, and even our own expectations of what we should be doing or ought to be thinking—what is “normal” or “right” or “the way it ought to be.” By putting sufficient amount of time (in this case 10,000 hour), those skills we’re trying to hone will be one with ourselves and it finally feels like we are just acting as ourselves.